In Honor of “One Billion Rising”…pass it on, post it, be it!


If there is one thing I know….
It’s that WOMEN will lead the next revolution.

Men. It is time to be humble allies to the rise of the strong feminine. That healing will serve all of us, and it is necessary now more than ever. By working together.

“My Revolution Lives in my Body”
Written by Eve Ensler, Performed by Rosario Dawson

Healing with Your Ancestry: The Last Frontier by Anyaa McAndrew

Based on the my recent interview with the Shamanic Astrology Mystery School Summit Preparing for 2020: Seeding a New World December 2017 go here to purchase my interview and the entire summit collection of amazing interviews that highlight an end-game, crisis on the earth scenario in the year 2020, with Pluto, Saturn and Jupiter cavorting together in the heavens…..not that far away!!

We are the ones we have been waiting for because we are our own ancestors. We have a soul lineage and we have a family lineage and we are connected to both. We have been on this planet for thousands of years, and we return again and again. We have DNA that comes from our ancestors, and we are the ones that have the consciousness to heal our past, our families, our genetics, which will influence our future as a planet, and future generations.

I call this the last frontier because we often focus so much on our own personal healing around present life circumstances that we forget that we have past lives, family patterns that go way back, more ancient ancestors, and ancestors that have influenced the collective consciousness of the country that we live in. Let me explain a bit more. Whether you subscribe to past lives, karma, or simply genetic patterning and ancestral inheritance, we are all affected by the ones who came before and this influences the ones who are our future. This influence happens on a personal level within our own soul’s lineage and also in families, and in cultures. In Michael Moore’s latest film “Where do we Invade Next”. He talks about the movement in Germany to bring attention, even in placards and signs on the streets to the atrocities of the past. And if you followed the Standing Rock events of last fall, you know that when the veterans showed up to protect the water bearers who were mostly native americans, they also did a ceremony to make amends for what the US Government has done to these cultures in the past.

Then there is trauma. Our unacknowledged trauma, whether we participated in it or not, has the effect of influencing our choices which then influences the quality of our lives. Our karma, whether it is family karma or cultural karma, gets passed down to us through our genes, and then gets activated by our choices and behaviors. It is now pretty much an accepted fact that we can be at effect of our trauma, our genetics and our family history far more than we ever thought possible. In my opinion and in my experience as a psychotherapist who has been working with trauma for the past 42 years, past trauma is the single most powerful blockage to living the life you desire to live. And, if we take that further, it is the single most powerful blockage to creating a New Earth.

Trauma: what is it, where does it live?

  • Repeating memories, thoughts and obsessions that haunt us.
  • Repeating patterns that show up over and over in relationships and life circumstances.
  • The “do over” phenomenon: finding yourself having to go back and re-do lessons that were not learned the first time are often a signal that there is trauma at the root.
  • Trauma can live in our nervous systems, or really any part of our physical, emotional, mental or even spiritual bodies.

Ways to Heal the Trauma and Pay it Forward:

We actually heal trauma backwards and forwards, because time and space are constructs in this dimension that help us accomplish things, but in the other dimensions the past present and future all exist in the NOW. Have you ever noticed that when you heal something profound that has been affecting you, your family, including parents and children sometimes change in dramatic ways?

Personal Trauma Healing: What is still affecting you from your past?

1. Shamanic Astrology helps to assess where the stickum’ still lives, and what cycles are the best in which to do the inner work.

For instance:

*If you have strong Saturn aspects in your natal chart, chances are you will need to be working with your inner critic, which can also be a critic that judges others.

*If you have strong Pluto aspects in your natal chart, chances are you will need to be working with victimization & persecutor patterns

*Neptune-can be about addiction, dissociation or over-sensitivity patterns

*Uranus-can be about separation from others patterning

Find a Shamanic Astrologer through or contact me for a reading!

2. Shamanic Breathwork or other kinds of transformative breathwork can both help to locate the trauma and help to clear it out is the resource for locating a practitioner, or contact me to schedule a session

3. Flower Essences can provide a resonance with the trauma to shift it out of your energy field: body, emotions, mind and soul

What are flower essences?

Flower Essences were first created by a physician who lived in the earlier part of this century, named Edward Bach. He was actually an intuitive healer as well. He discovered that each flower is a mandala of healing, and when you take in the essence of the flower, similar to a homeopathic remedy and the homeopathic principle of like cure like, the pattern that is causing the dis-ease will rise to the surface of consciousness and shift into it’s opposite. For instance, Impatiens is for impatience, but patience with our own and others’ process and timings can be the result of taking Impatiens Flower Remedy.

4. Other Vibrational Remedies and Transformational Tools that are incredibly helpful:

  • Essential Oils which are the life-blood of the plant can also help with trauma….Young Living has a few oils specifically for trauma, one is called Sara
  • I have found that sound therapy of all kinds, including specific kinds of music, when combined with other modalities can be  profoundly effective.It is if we have certain frequencies that are specific to us that will work to move out our own trauma
  • EMDR: a skilled practitioner can assist you to move it out of your nervous system (contact me for a session)
  • Sacred Sexual Healing with a Qualified Daka or Dakini: for sexual trauma, childhood sexual abuse, rape and incest, IF you have done good work first with a psychotherapist.
  • Radical Forgiveness and Self-Forgiveness work.  Radical Forgiveness is a tool for dispersing the charge on situations, issues and traumas, past and present, by assisting us to see a bigger picture and own our own projections. I personally use it often! To access free worksheets and learn more, go to

5. Karmic Clearing: Clearing the records

Akashic Records work with a trained practitioner such as Shamanic High Priestess Tamalla Mallet at

Go here to learn about a karmic clearing workshop Tamalla will be offering in mid-January 2018 in my temple in the Smoky Mountains called Choosing Abundance!

4 steps:

  • Practitioner finds the information, the patterns (energetic patterns with others, genetic karma and ancestral karma) and the lifetimes…no need to have volumes of info, but enough so that you can resonate with it.
  • Practitioner presents it to you so that you can feel the resonance and own the patterns, and be ready to let them go
  • Practitioner requests the clearing of the records of those patterns (it’s actually your guides who do the clearing of the records)
  • Receiver uses a repetitive prayer for clearing and cleansing that grounds the shift into 3-D reality.

6. Ancestor Work 

 My experience with Daniel & I’s Renaissance of the Sacred Feminine excursions to the Celtic and Neolithic lands of England, Scotland, Wales and Ireland has really highlighted work with the ancestors! It is easy to resonate with the ancient temples, stone circles and monuments, to make prayers and do ceremony because these are the places where this has been done for thousands of years. Recognizing that the stones are also our ancestors and hold the records of ancient ancestors. When you experience them you can actually see the faces and the features that they were chosen for, which allows us to further feel our connection with the ancient people who created these earth temples. The stones have personalities, hold the stories and are the skeleton of the our planet…they can be communicated with, talked to, even loved.

And, there are the crop circles, which some say are ascension programs. Even though we barely understand the messages they are sending us, some obvious, but others very complex, we are likey receiving messages from our future ancestors, the ones who seeded us, and the ones we will evolve into in the far distant future.





6. Creating an Ancestor Ceremony assists us to call in the wisdom and assistance that is there for us through those who have gone before.

Our ancestors are standing behind us, rooting for us to do the right thing and for us to pull through these dark times. They assist us in unseen and myriad ways.

Elements of an Ancestor Ceremony:

  • Radical Forgiveness and Self-Forgiveness worksheets to forgive them and ourselves for ways we are like them and have made the same mistakes
  • A Traditional Item representing the old way, the ancestors’ way of life honors them
  • An Item representing the new story we are calling in assists them to know what we want
  • An altar with all the elements represented earth~air~fire~water, and calling in the directions (optional) honors the earth and the sky and brings everything together that is a part of us
  • A traditional libation: pour out a bit for them (alcoholic probably preferred, but water if that is not available)


  • Call in the directions and shamanic astrology archetypes
  • Create an invocation calling in the ancestors specific to your needs
  • Forgive them for what they have done that has been harmful and bless them for what they have created that is helpful
  • Call on them to support your new visions
  • Follow with a feast and create a plate for them and a place for them, to feed them with the energy to carry out your vision
  • Follow with music and~or dance that enlivens you!

 “I stand between the ancient wise ones, the ancestors of my bloodline and a new earth. I am the bridge, as they speak and act through me. I receive their gifts from the past, I transform it in the present and I offer it to the new story.”

If you are being called to do some personal work, check out my page here on Personal and~or Couples Intensives. As a Transpersoanl Psychotherapist with 43 years experience, as well as many years expeience working with couples, ask me about the issues that are up for you, and let’s look together at how we might work together!

Moving the Feminine into the New Sensual~Sexual Story

Now that we’ve fully entered this New Age of Aquarius, it’s time to reclaim our Divine Feminine power as she’s been hiding in the Underworld far too long.

By Anyaa McAndrew & Sahara Exodus

There appears to be a variety of ways that we are living our lives in 2013. I received a newsletter from a spiritual teacher a few weeks ago that really spelled it out for me. Some of us are busily living the old story, some of us are busy finishing up writing the old story, some are in the Sacred Pause, some of us have begun to catch & ride the Co-Creative Wave, and some of us are actually writing the New Story.

When it comes to women and our body images, our sensuality, our ability & willingness  to receive pleasure in our bodies, and our sexuality, the New Story is directly connected to the Divine Feminine within us. If we can relate to the Great Mother, to Gaia, the Goddess in any way, shape or form, we may have a better chance at getting to the New Story. The old stories are really old, ancient in fact. We have been victims of violence, war, poverty and discrimination for 5,000 years. The V-day “One Billion Rising” to mitigate violence against women and girls that happened worldwide on February 14th, 2013 was probably the largest event of its kind ever. Continue reading “Moving the Feminine into the New Sensual~Sexual Story”

Why It Is Wise to Worship a Woman

Arjuna Ardagh

A few days ago, after a particularly exquisite evening with my wife Chameli, I put this post up on Facebook before going to bed:

“I have had many, many great teachers in my life. A super abundance. No one and nothing comes close to the woman who is now asleep in the bedroom. My marriage has become the guru, the salvation, the muse, the crack through which the divine shines through.”

When I woke up the next morning, there were the usual offerings of people who liked the post as well as comments. One man had the vulnerability and courage to post this on facebook:

“Thank you Arjuna for this sharing, I feel like [I’m] in front of a choice which is between feeling envious of what you have and I don’t, or instead to decide that ‘I want that too,’ and, as you show, it is possible…”

I was touched.

Over the next days, I got several more messages like this from men: vulnerable men, honest men, rare and courageous men. They came in as private messages on Facebook or through our website, and they all said basically the same thing: “I read your Facebook post. I want what you have. Show me how to get it.”

So, friends, here it is. The short guide on how to worship a woman, and why it’s the wisest thing that a man can do. First of all, lets pop a few very understandable doubts that you might have. I’m familiar with all of them.

1. “I’m wounded and damaged in my relationships to the feminine.” So am I, dear brother, so am I. My parents divorced in a messy way when I was four. I grew up alone with my mother. She did her very best to provide for me, but she was unhappy and insecure. By the time I started to have relationships with women myself in my early teens, I discovered that I had a mountain of resentments, fears, and separation in my relation to the feminine. The conscious practice of worship can become a part of healing the wounds.

2. “Arjuna, you’re lucky. You’ve got an incredible partner. I’m together with a woman who’s not like Chameli.” I really don’t have the ultimate answer to that doubt or question. It certainly could seem to be the case that I’ve been lucky in finding a great woman, but here’s how it happened for me. I’ve had a lot of less lucky connections in my life. I’ve experienced my share of the manipulative side of the feminine: the victim, the rageful, the vengeful. And I have seen the ugly side of the masculine psyche in myself. A few weeks prior to meeting Chameli, my wife, something deep and profound shifted in me, which I believe can shift for anyone in the same way.

3. “I don’t have a partner at all, and I sometimes doubt if I’ll ever meet anybody.” Being with a partner where worship is not flowing, or not being with a partner at all, are basically two aspects of the same situation: you’ve had an intuition or a glimpse of the possibilities of a deeper love, and you want more of it. The solutions are the same.

4. “I feel my heart is closed down. I live in my head a lot, and I wouldn’t even know what worship was if it broke into my house at 2 o’clock in the morning and held me at gunpoint.” That’s where the whole thing starts for all of us, when we realize that we don’t yet know how to love. And that’s that the big question that you have to consider: “Is that okay with me?” Never mind how much money you make, or how many friends you have on Facebook, no matter how nice a house you live in, or no matter how big a car you drive, no matter how impressive your partner’s bust size, or how much you meditate and become spiritual… have you loved for real, in a total and undefended way? If not, and here’s where you have to be honest with yourself, is that OK with you? Is it OK to die one day without the heart’s gift having been fully given?

Eight or nine years ago, I came to that question in myself, exactly that, and I discovered that the answer was, if I was was raw and vulnerable and uncomplicated, that it was actually not OK. If I died one day without having fully loved, it would not have truly been a life well lived.

Many many years ago, I went to Bali for a vacation, on my own. I met up with some other young travelers there and we hired a Jeep to take us on a tour of the island. We drove up right to the highest point of the island, where Tourists don’t usually go. Our guide took us to one of the most sacred temples. It was surrounded by a big brick wall with an ornate entrance. After removing our shoes and wrapping scarves around our heads, we stepped together through this entrance. Inside, there was a short courtyard and then another brick wall with another entrance. After more preparations of lighting incense and giving offerings, we stepped through the second entrance. We were allowed to go through the opening in one more wall, but that was it. All together there were ten walls around the deity in the middle. Hindus could go beyond the fourth wall. Devotees of that particular deity could go beyond the fifth wall, and so it went on. The only people allowed to approach the deity directly were those who had given their lives completely and totally to its worship. Everyone else could come a little closer, a little closer, to the innermost beauty, but not all the way to the center.

I’m not a big believer of the worship of statues, but there’s a beautiful symbolism to what I saw there, because a woman’s heart is just like that. At the essence of every woman’s heart is the divine feminine. It contains everything that has ever been beautiful, or lovely, or inspiring, in any woman, anywhere, at any time. The very essence of every woman’s heart is the peak of wisdom, the peak of inspiration, the peak of sexual desirability, the peak of soothing, healing love. The peak of everything. But it’s protected, for good reason, by a series of concentric walls. To move inwardly from one wall to the next requires that you intensify your capacity to devotion, and as you do so, you are rewarded with Grace. This is not something you can negotiate verbally with a woman. She doesn’t even know consciously how to open those gates herself. They are opened magically and invisibly by the keys of worship.

If you stand on the outside of the outermost wall, all you have available to you, like many other unfortunate men, is pornography. For $1.99 a minute, you can see her breasts, maybe her vagina, and you can stimulate yourself in a sad longing for deeper love.

Step through another gate, and she will show you her outer gift-wrapping. She’ll look at you with a certain twinkle in her eye. She’ll answer your questions coyly. She’ll give you just the faintest hint that there is more available.

Step through another gate with your commitment, with your attention, with the small seedlings of devotion, and she’ll open her heart to you more. She’ll share with you her insecurities, the way that she’s been hurt, her deepest longings. Some men will back away at this point. They realize that the price they must pay to go deeper is more than they are willing to give. They start to feel a responsibility. But for those few who step though another gate, they come to discover her loyalty, her willingness to stick with you no matter what, her willingness to raise your children, stick up for you in conversation, and, if you are lucky, even pick up your dirty socks now and then. And so it goes on. You’ve got the gist by now.

Somewhere around the second wall from the center, she casts the veils of her personality aside, and shows you that she is both a human being and also a portal into something much greater than that. She shows you a wrath that is not hers, but all women’s. She shows you a patience that is also universal. She shows you her wisdom. At this point you start to experience the archetypes of women, who have been portrayed as goddesses and mythological figures in every tradition.

Then, at the very center, in the innermost temple itself, all the layers of your devotion are flooded with reward all at once. You discover the very essence of the feminine, and in a strange way that is not exactly romantic, but profoundly sacred all the same, you realize that you could have got here with any woman if you had just been willing to pass through all the layers of initiation. Any woman is every woman, and every woman is any woman at the same time. When you love a woman completely, at the very essence of her being, this is the one divine feminine flame. It is what has made every woman in history beautiful. It’s the flame behind the Mona Lisa, and Dante’s Beatrice, and yes, also Penelope Cruz and Heidi Klum. You discover the magic ingredient which has lead every man to fall in love with a woman.

When you learn how to pay attention to the essence of the feminine in this way, you fall to the floor in full body prostration, tears soaking your cheeks and clothes, and you wonder how you could have ever taken Her, in all of Her forms, for granted even for a second.

So just a couple small questions remain. First, do you get what I’m talking about? Does it jive for you? Does it make sense? And second, if yes, how are you going to get from where you are now to being able to the full capacity of your heart to love for real? I’d be glad to share more about this if we get to know each other better, but here’s how you get started.
First, do what I did, and create an altar in your room dedicated to Divine Feminine. Put only symbols of the feminine on it. I have a painting called “Beatrix” by Dante Gabriel Rossetti. I have a statue of Quan Kin. Populate your altar with anything that reminds you of the feminine, and spend a few minutes of the day in worship. Yes, worship. Adoration. Devotion. Offer up rose petals. Offer poems. Offer everything, and beg Her to reveal Her innermost essence to you. This will work miracles whether you’re single and waiting to meet the right woman or whether you’re already in relationship and long to meet your woman in a deeper way.

The second way to get started: make a practice, a discipline, of telling your woman, or any woman, ten times a day something which you adore about her. “I love the smell of your shampoo.” “I love the way you laugh.” “The color of your eyes is so beautiful.” Of course, you need to keep it appropriate. You can go as far out on a limb as you like if you’re in relationship with a woman, but with anyone else remember the gates. Keep you communication appropriate to the gate number that you find yourself at. Appreciation the curve of a woman’s breast, for example, if she happens to be the cashier at the supermarket, would equate more to harassment than worship.
So here’s enough to get started. Of course, there’s a lot more we can say about this. Feel free to post your comments below, and I’ll use them as the foundation for future blogs.

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Stages of Healing the Wounded Feminine: Dissolving the Scars of Patriarchal Abuse “Part I: The Wound” by Anyaa McAndrew

The Sacred Feminine, the Empowered Feminine, the Divine Feminine. These words evoke images of a large luminous being, goddess-like, regal, and leading the way to new world, to heaven on earth. Her radiance would cause all war to cease, and the feminine principles of compassion, cooperation and community would prevail. All beings would live in harmony with nature.

Thanks to first and second-wave feminism, through the efforts of the earlier suffrage movement, and the feminism of 30-40 years ago and now third-wave feminism of today, the feminine has been somewhat restored. Women now enjoy some measure of equality and respect. At the time I write this, Senator Hillary Clinton is one of the candidates for the Democratic nomination for the presidency of the U.S; a remarkable feat when we consider that the fate of women in the 50’s was to choose housewife, mother, nurse, teacher, factory worker, sex worker, or mistress as their life purpose.

Women in general are full of themselves these days; full of power, authority, self-confidence, self-esteem and self-love. I love working with women to facilitate this fullness! We’ve come a long way, baby! Many of our gains have come from our courage to move forward and take risks to be more than our mothers, to find a bigger Self among the remains of previous generations.

My personal experience is that women are infinitely creative, yet practical when it comes to getting what they need to take care of themselves and their children. When given the insight and the opportunity, they can be even more creative and determined when it comes to climbing out of bad relationships, stuck patterns and old paradigms. Perhaps this is because we have been shut up and shut down for the last two to five thousand years of patriarchy, under threat of rape, and worse. We understand what it means to be patient, to bide our time, and then venture forth when the coast is clear. The coast has been clearer than anybody can remember, but there are still some big shifts to make. Continue reading “Stages of Healing the Wounded Feminine: Dissolving the Scars of Patriarchal Abuse “Part I: The Wound” by Anyaa McAndrew”